One of the newer trends in the wedding world is a micro-wedding, but what the heck is a Micro-Wedding? I’m wanted to give you the lowdown on what they are, the advantages and disadvantages on having one, if a microwedding is right for you, and how to get started planning one.

A backyard summer micro-wedding.

What is a Micro-Wedding?

According to the Knot “A micro-wedding, like its name suggests, will typically include anywhere from five to 50 guests—often immediate family and super-close friends only.”

Because they are smaller in size, they are usually cheaper, tend to be more relaxed and shorter in length than a traditional wedding. While micro-weddings sound similar to both elopements and intimate weddings there are a few differences. Elopements are usually only attended by the couple getting married, a witness, and the officiant. They are often a quick simple private ceremony or at the City Hall. Micro-weddings are different from intimate weddings in that they are generally considered to have between 20 and 50 guests. A micro-wedding is basically a full wedding day, just on a much smaller scale.

A fall micro wedding in Astoria park.

What are the advantages of micro weddings?

  • They tend to be less expensive, and and you can put more of your money towards the things that you think are important. According to The Knot 2018 Real Weddings Study, the average overall guest count was also down, while the average cost per guest went up. 
  • You will get more time to spend with the people who are most important to you.
  • micro-weddings are usually about 2-3 of hours, enough time for a ceremony, enjoying a small dinner and drinks with your guests, also allowing time for some photographs.
  • Less stress. A smaller wedding can have fewer expectations, and allow you to be more creative. You won’t feel as pressured to include wedding traditions that don’t resonate with you.
A fall micro-wedding in Central Park's treehouse for dreaming.

What are the disadvantages of micro weddings?

  • Push back from family and friends that think they know what’s best.
  • Guests who don’t make the cut can feel hurt by your decision.
  • You could miss out on some wedding traditions that won’t work for such a small affair.
A colorful summer backyard Micro-wedding.

Is a micro wedding right for us?

The first thing to do when planning a wedding, is sit down with your partner and discuss your expectations for the day before making any decisions. Figure out what the non-negotiables are for the both of you.

  • How many friends and family would be on your ideal guest list (with no external pressure)?
  • If you can’t narrow down your list to less than 20, a micro wedding might not be for you. 
  • Are you more comfortable with just the two of you, or do you value the idea of having your closest friends and family present?
  • Are any of your non-negotiables not possible with a large/small guest list?

Ultimately, the size of your wedding is up to you and your partner. You should do what best reflects your relationship, whether its a huge party with your loved ones, or something a bit more intimate.